As a sexually active woman you probably learned to orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Men also like to give the clitoris – at least the head of the clitoris – some attention, because it is such a sensitive zone and a quick way to turn on a woman. However, after climaxing from clitoral stimulation the head of the clitoris can be sensitive to the touch or even hurt for a while.
Have you ever wondered what you can do to avoid this and be able to continue pleasuring your genitals after the climax? I for sure did. So often during turn on I thought that I could go on like this forever and have one orgasm after the next. For sure this time I would be able to just continue stroking my clitoris without the urge to stop. Well, time and time again I couldn’t continue because it was unpleasant to painful to touch myself. In addition I felt a bit down and depleted, even tired after climax.
What is the solution?
The obvious one: you could stop having clitoral orgasms, but climax from stimulating other areas of the body. Totally possible, but why should we leave out this very special pleasure?
Alternatively you can play with blended orgasms, where you stimulate your clitoris and another area of your body, like your G-spot or nipples, thus expanding your pleasure instead of keeping it laser focused on a tiny area.
Related to that you can take the turn on from your clitoris and move it around in your body. For today’s article I will give you some concrete tips on how to have a clitoral orgasm without the unease after climax by distributing your sexual turn on through your body. Here we go:
- Warm up: try not to go straight to your clitoris, but get there slowly from the toes and head and wake up your whole body.
- Bigger movements: instead of concentrating on the head of the clitoris with your fingers or vibrator, stroke your whole vulva. Massage along the inner lips with two fingers to stimulate the legs of the clitoris as well (do try it, it’s delicious).
- Relax: consciously relax your pelvic muscles, hips, ass, and legs.
- Breathe: take slow, deep breaths into your belly to help you relax.
- Relax some more: if you find if hard to relax your pelvic floor muscles, you can experiment with pushing them down and out instead of contracting them inwards.
- Slow down: vary the speed and pressure of the stimulation.
- Stay with the sensations: regularly practicing a body meditation helps you to notice all the juicy sensations in the heat of the moment. Grab my guided body meditation to start practicing now.
- Distribute the turn on: periodically guide your sexual energy up your torso and along your legs. You can do this with hand strokes from your pelvis along the legs or the torso, by visualizing the turn on to radiate out from your clitoris to the rest of your body or you do this with your breath.
- At climax: relax!, slow down, breathe extra deep, and keep sending the energy from the clitoris to other parts of the body.
Keep practicing. The more you have trained yourself to tense up during climax, the harder it will be to relax. Yet, this is important to not only feel much better after climax, but also to have much longer, deeper and more fulfilling orgasms.
If you don’t believe you can change your orgasm habits, keep going, it’s worth it! You can relax and enhance your sensitivity even when you have used contractions and vibrators to climax for a long time. Your brain is just used to a certain kind of stimulation, but can add other ways to the spectrum of possibilities any time.
If you want somebody to take you to a whole new level of pleasure and orgasms, I am willing to help you. I know how it feels like to not being able to orgasm, to only orgasm from a very specific kind of stimulation and now to being multi-orgasmic in all kinds of ways, shapes and forms. And I know how to help you break through your blockages along the way.
What is your experience with clitoral stimulation? Comment below.
With love,
Maria
tl;dr
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Warm up
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Bigger movements
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Relax
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Breathe
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Relax some more
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Slow down
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Stay with the sensations
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Distribute the turn on
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