The personal development industry often centers around trying to fix people as if they were broken and needed repair.

It implies that there is a right way to think and act and that we are all doing it wrongly.
It implies that life has a goal and we need to work hard to get a glimpse at it, let alone reach it.

I disagree with this fixing mentality.

There is not one right way to live, but YOUR way to live. The more you find your own expression, the more fulfilled you will feel. How could anybody else know what’s it like to be you and what wants to be expressed in your life?

Of course there are less or more skillful habits and approaches to handle the various challenges in life and they will lead to different experiences in life. Nevertheless, you are the master of your life and choose what you want to focus on.

Trying to fix yourself is the opposite of self-love, because it tells you that you are wrong the way you are and need to improve.

You don’t need to be fixed.
You are whole already, even when you don’t see it yet.
You are worthy of love.
You can love yourself now while being unperfect.
You can even love all the things about you that you want to change. In fact, this is the fast lane to self-love and change.

Do you want somebody to hold you in your messiness, your in-between and your glory? I might be this person for you. Reach out to me to get to know each other and decide if we want to work and coach together.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you.