We all have an idea of what is normal.

How much you should work.
How relationships should look.
How successful you should be.
How much money you should make.
What a “good” life looks like.

And most of the time, we don’t even question it.

We compare ourselves to the people around us and use them as our reference point.

But what if your life doesn’t need to look normal?

What if you could create your own normal?

For me, this means asking myself:

What do I actually want?

Not what makes sense.

Not what other people are doing.

Not what I should want.

What do I want?

And then being willing to create a life around that.

This can feel uncomfortable because there is no blueprint.

You might want something that nobody around you wants.

You might make choices that other people don’t understand.

You might change your mind.

You might disappoint people.

And you might have to tolerate being seen as a little unconventional.

But you aren’t alive to live a copy of somebody else’s life.

You are here to create your own.

Your desires are allowed to be your reference point.

Your aliveness can be your compass.

So instead of asking:

“What is normal?”

“What would be normal for me?”

Maria