There is a whole industry built around fixing yourself.

Find the problem.
Understand the problem.
Work on the problem.
Improve yourself.
Become a better version of yourself.
Repeat.

I disagree with the basic premise.

You don't need to be fixed.

You are whole already, even when you don't see it yet.

Of course there are habits you might want to change.

There are things you might want to learn.

There are situations in your life that you don't enjoy and would very much like to change.

But that doesn't mean there is something fundamentally wrong with you.

I think trying to fix yourself can become the opposite of self-love.

Because underneath it sits the message:

“I am wrong as I am. I need to become different before I am okay.”

What if you stopped doing that?

What if you could love yourself while you're still figuring things out?

What if change didn't have to come from rejection of yourself?

That doesn't mean staying exactly as you are.

It means that change no longer has to be a fight against yourself.

There is not one right way to live.

There is your way.

How could anybody else know exactly what it is like to be you, what you desire, what you value and what wants to be expressed through your life?

Nobody can.

That is your work.

Not becoming the correct person.

Becoming more fully yourself.