Scared to Desire I get it when you are scared to desire. It’s not that desires per se are scary, but what we make them mean can feel scary. That’s because our desires are personal. If I told you that I am learning Portuguese you’d maybe be surprised, but why not learn Portuguese. If I […]
Real Decisions Lately I have been thinking about decisions and I noticed that I haven’t been totally honest with myself. A while back I’ve made a big decision in my life and have taken the necessary steps to follow through with it. However, a part of me held back on going all in. I didn’t […]
Living in the Moment Don’t you also dislike those unreliable people who live moment to moment? I do. And I want to be more like them. They don’t worry about the future much, they do what they feel like doing in the moment – they live in the moment much more than we regular hustle.work.produce-focused […]
Self-Love and Self-Compassion I’m a sensitive person and I easily get overwhelmed by sensations. I tend to retreat into my shell (I’m a cancer) and lick my wounds. So you’d think that self-love and compassion with myself comes to me naturally. Well, not really. As so much else, this is a practice. A practice that […]
Is Your Life Filled With You? Do you sometimes reach a big goal and find yourself not that fulfilled or happy as you had expected to be? Do you feel like you aren’t living YOUR life? Do you follow society’s blueprint of a happy life – good education, marriage, house, have a boy and a […]
Resistance Is Futile “How are you?” – “Everything’s the same.” Upon hearing this I get mixed feelings. On the one hand I find it boring, but on the other hand it has something soothing or safe. And of course one question arises: Is it actually true? Can life stay the same? One look into nature […]
What Do You Want? What else do you want? What do you want right now? What do you want to eat? What do you want to experience today? Be specific. What is it exactly that you want now? Do you need somebody else to get what you want? No. – Great! Go and get it! […]
I Call Myself a Pleasure Coach, but… I call myself a pleasure coach, yet what I do is so much deeper than that (and sexuality is already pretty deep and intimate). I help women to feel radiantly alive. I support women to live their desires. I create a loving space of exploration and possibility. That […]
I Was Dependent on Pleasure Pleasure used to be something I mostly received from my environment. On the other hand, by giving pleasure I was in the more powerful position. Through giving pleasure I was building a pleasure account in my head. I expected that the “pleasure debt” would naturally be repaid, so I rarely […]
Self-Responsibility How are you going to change your life if you don’t take responsibility for it? It’s impossible. Self-Responsibility is the foundation of deliberate change. All your dreams, orders from the universe, or “manifestation” won’t bring any change when you don’t recognize your own power in your life and take action. Self-pity seems to be […]