I Was Dependent on Pleasure Pleasure used to be something I mostly received from my environment. On the other hand, by giving pleasure I was in the more powerful position. Through giving pleasure I was building a pleasure account in my head. I expected that the “pleasure debt” would naturally be repaid, so I rarely […]
Self-Responsibility How are you going to change your life if you don’t take responsibility for it? It’s impossible. Self-Responsibility is the foundation of deliberate change. All your dreams, orders from the universe, or “manifestation” won’t bring any change when you don’t recognize your own power in your life and take action. Self-pity seems to be […]
Acceptance & Compassion Let’s talk about some very concrete inner work you can do for your healing and transformation. Let’s talk about acceptance. Compassion As a coach acceptance is one of my key tools to enable clients to move forward, find more inner peace and let transformation happen. And of course acceptance played a huge […]
Practicing the Pleasure of Smell I love smell. There is something about it that can bring me into the present moment immediately. A flower. Fresh coffee. The smell of rain. Someone’s skin. Sometimes I stop and actually smell things instead of just noticing them in passing. I might take a deep breath and stay with […]
Protobag I had an idea. I thought it would be great to have a bag that could be adjusted to different sizes depending on what I wanted to carry. I thought about it for a while. I imagined how it could work. I thought about the different materials and how the bag could be constructed. […]
Expectations vs Agreements Hello to unspoken expectations. Hello to feeling hurt. Hello to anger. What went wrong here? Possibly a lot. Probably your communication or lack thereof. More specifically, a lack of clear agreements. In my approach of living a purposeful life I talk a lot about taking responsibility and this is also the angle […]
What If This Thought Isn’t True? We have so many thoughts about ourselves and our lives. Some of them are useful. Some of them are not. And some of them we have believed for so long that we don’t even realise they are just thoughts. Maybe you believe you are not good enough. Maybe you […]
Why I Don’t Believe in Fixing People The personal development industry often centers around trying to fix people as if they were broken and needed repair. It implies that there is a right way to think and act and that we are all doing it wrongly. It implies that life has a goal and we […]
The Irrationality of Rational Decisions I love rational decisions. I like making lists of pros and cons. I like weighing the evidence. I like understanding all the facts before making a decision. But sometimes a rational decision is not the right decision for you. Because there is information that doesn’t fit neatly into a spreadsheet. […]
Intellectual Knowing Isn’t Enough Intellectual knowing isn’t enough. You can know everything there is to know about something and still not be able to live it. You can know that you should rest, and still keep working. You can know that you want to say no, and still say yes. You can know that you […]